Are you moving abroad? Nervous or anxious about how everything will work out? Here’s some golden tips to help you to train the right mindset to living settling in as an expat in a new country. Moving can cause stress and anxiety under normal circumstances, but moving to another country can be extremely stressful.
These are my own personal tips for living outside of my home country for almost 7 years.
Whether it’s a long-term move or a short stay such as a work internship, language exchange or Erasmus exchange programme you may find these tips useful.
The first thing to understand is that stress and anxiety are natural. I teach people how to manage anxiety.
Change the way you talk about the situation
Focus on what you want from your experience abroad rather than what you don’t want. When we focus more on the things we don’t want, unconsciously we are setting ourselves up for potential failure.
Administrative tasks suck, but there is nothing you can do about it.
Accept that each country has its own way of doing things, especially when it comes to red tape and admin. A lot of frustrations can occur here, which is normal. This is one thing that you cannot influence, instead focus your energy on situations you can control.
Begin to speak the local language
There’s a high chance the country you’re moving to has a different language. Learning the language can bring massive benefits, and the good news is that you do not need to be fluent and be willing to make lots of mistakes, the key is to find your ‘why’ for learning the language. Complete this sentence: When I learn the local language, I will…
Even if you believe languages are difficult because of past experiences. Realise that language learning is a natural skill which you can build and develop. Beyond the obvious language classes, look into finding conversation groups and building something such as a book, the news or a conversation into your daily life.
A bonus tip: look at how native speakers use hand gestures, the position of their mouth and play with your voice to bring it close to their accent as closely as possible.
Don’t go home too often
Spend time in your new destination, explore and take advantage of your new destination, as well as surrounding cities and towns. In doing this rather than making frequent trips home will allow you to become more familiar with your new country and increase your cultural awareness.
Release stress and stay motivated
Life can throw all kinds of challenges at us. Like maintaining a well kept garden, it’s important to pull out the weeds from time to time. There are many ways of doing this. Exercise as much as your doctor recommends is appropriate for you. You can also use techniques such as mindfulness, meditation and of course our favourite method hypnosis – you can learn how hypnosis works here.
Hypnosis is a natural way for you to gain control over anxiety, unwanted habits, emotions and improve your sleep at the same time. You can give it a go for yourself in this free audio experience.